Man has it been a year. It hasn't ended yet but I think I've done soooo much this year it's totally incredible.
Buying a first home, getting promoted, starting my CA studies and OMG I GOT MARRIED!
I'm actually a MRS now, and boy does that sound old!
I just wanted to go behind the scenes on what it is like to plan a wedding, and what actually happens on your wedding day. It's a rollercoaster of emotions, money literally flows out of your pocket like running water but I wouldn't swap it for anything.
My main aim was for everyone to have fun, especially for Kevin and myself, and I think we achieved that- with us anyway.
1. Woke up at 3.30am and yes it 2 was extremely early, but the energy I had to get through the day was a mixture of adrenaline, Hydralytes(thanks Loan) and alcohol. I can't say I didn't get tired, I snoozed in the car on the way to the reception from our photoshoot location and was definitely needed! I'm glad that we went to the reception early, just to rest the feet and try get things organised for the night.
It was unfortunate that I got hit with the flu the day before the wedding, I had the fever and half my voice was gone. But I drank honey lemon tea that night and that made me get through the next day. Day after the wedding my voice was completely gone. Couldn't get a word out of me even if you tried lol.
2. Was it stressful? I wasn't too stressed. I always heard the words "I know how stressed you must be since it's XX weeks/days away..." Actually no, why would I be stressed? If I booked everything and have a detailed plan of the day, there's no reason to be stressed. Sure there's plenty of things to do on the lead up to the day, and suppliers start dicking around with you because that's just how it is but no, it's not stressful. My jeweller said even though the wedding is 2 days away as the bride you're looking too calm. It's a good thing though isn't it?
There's a difference between annoyance and stress, and when things didn't go my way, I got annoyed, not stressed. I know when money is involved, suppliers that gets it wrong will always try to fix it up. And annoyance disappears after a few hours or so (won't be seeing any grey hairs on me yet!).
3. There's a reason why you have a bridal party. Use them. My bridal party was great. On the lead up, I delegated roles and that's how I relaxed on my day. They were there to get things organised, they ran the day, made me look and feel a million bucks and even had to help me climb onto the toilet seat. Love them to bits. They even danced with me though some haven't done any choreo'd dancing at all. And boy is that dedication!
4. I added extra time to everything we did, every location we went to and the day just went by on time, even when there were mishaps. Like the fact that the cafe forgot my booking and was about to close up shop for the day, and we had to wait 10-15mins til the owner showed up and apologised and how too many people wanted to take photos after the tea ceremony that even though we finished early, we didn't end up leaving until the time indicated in the plan.
These things you can't really predict/plan ahead, even if you try. So just get ready for it.
5. Kevin and I are pretty indecisive so we decided that if we see something that we are satisfied with, then stick with it straight away. That worked half the time. I was extremely indecisive with my dress and it saw me purchase 2.5 dresses... (don't ask what 0.5 means, that pains me still) and I still had doubts with the dress I wore, but you know what I realised, NO ONE CARED. No one will remember your dress, they'll only remember how good/bad of a time they had. That's all I cared at the end.
6. Our bridal entrance song didn't come on. Kinda still stuck with Kevin cos it was the only song he chose from every single song that needed to be picked, and it didn't even come on. I told him to try and let it go, which he said he's okay, things like this happens, but I know he was sourly disappointed. Poor thing. I had too much champagne by that time so I just told everyone to cheer for us :) He did say he didn't need to dance so that was a good thing wasn't it?
7. It's hard to go to the toilet wearing a wedding gown. Just sayin'.
8. I ate a proper lunch. I think that's really important. Makes the day go by a little easier with food in your stomach. And feeding my bridal party made them happy too. Happy but wanted a nap:)
9. It's hard work to keep tabs on everything and every supplier you book. But it's manageable. Just think that once you book them in, you wont need to hear from them until a month beforehand. Best to catch up with all of them a month before the wedding just in case they get some details wrong and most importantly they want to keep tabs of what your agenda looks like anyway, Some don't even follow the agenda and do their own thing, which was annoying. Not stressful- annoying.
10. I've learnt to drop all the negativity and embraced the day as it came. The weight pretty much lifted off my shoulders and you know what, I had fun. It was hella amazing. It was like I was 18, free and didn't have a care in the world. I apologise to those that didn't think the wedding was up to scratch but I did the wedding because I wanted to get married. And if you're there for us to impress you then you were at the wrong place. Judge as you may but it was a celebration, so be happy for us, because we sure are living life right now.
NO RAGRETS!
However, I wished you were there. It would've made both mine and Kevin's world complete.
Love you always,
Your daughter Anna ♥
PS: I hate looking at wedding inspo now. I've unfollowed all bridal insta pages and unsubscribed to all bridal fb pages. Over the wedding jizz but would love to help anyone who's preparing for the wedding! I'd love to be apart of the planning process :D
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